Quick Thought Session 36: Your Worth Is Not Defined By How Someone Treats You

When we are by ourselves we are usually filled with unbreakable confidence that does not allow any negativity to penetrate us. We focus on the things that we want and we focus on making ourselves better without anyone’s negative views interfering with our “glowup”. We are self-assured human beings that know we got it going on.

But then we get into our groups, our conversations, our interactions with other humans. We notice how some treat us great and how others simply do not care for our existence or treat us in a way that we would never want to be treated. We go back and forth in our minds between “I’m great” to “I’m worthless” depending on who we are around and our vibe continuously fluctuates all day long.

If we focus on our inner being, meaning how we view ourselves, we can build up a confidence level that will not be affected by those around us. We can sustain our high vibrational level if we learn to perceive other views/actions of us as just “unwanted noise” and just turn down the volume. This mindset does take time but it begins with you being aware of how others affect your self-worth. Your self-worth never should be defined by anyone but yourself. Working on yourself is a daily process that involves reflection and some form of meditation. Take at least 15 minutes a day to self-reflect and meditate. Eventually you’ll be able to shut off the “unwanted noise” of everyone else and learn that your worth is not dependent on anyone else besides yourself. And yourself will eventually understand that your worth is unlimited. – Peace and Love

Always Be You

Whenever I watch movies, whether it be a comedy or action film, I tend to walk away from it with a lesson learned. Behind every movie there are hidden messages that we can all relate with and today’s movie is no different: Dora and the Lost City of Gold.

Obviously this wasn’t my selection choice, but one that was made by my daughter. Not growing up watching the cartoon herself, she nevertheless found the movie interesting and had a strong desire to watch it. And like any good parent, I obliged her request.

I don’t want to give away any spoilers here but Dora is a good natured kid who exhibits such an enthusiastic look on life. She’s highly intelligent and somewhat naive about how the world works (with people in it) but that is what makes her so enchanting. Her outlook on life is so radiant and filled with positivity that it can be nauseating for people who are filled with bitterness, sadness or a negative view on life. But this radiancy is what makes her so special and what kept me mesmerized by her presence throughout the film.

Throughout the movie, people around her kept asking her to change for her to “fit in”, particularly her cousin Diego. He insisted that she stopped being “weird” and learn to just be “normal” because “high school is hard enough as it is”. Dora just wants to be herself and normal to her is being true to who she is. There are times in the movie where she does question herself about how she appears to others but eventually overcomes these self doubts about herself and thus resorts back to what is best for her: being who she is.

At a certain point in the film the character Alejandro, becomes so exasperated by her good natured go lucky personality that he actually yells at her to stop being so positive. In her perspective, with any negative situation, she can turn it around by looking it at a different perspective. This annoyed the crap out of Alejandro but Dora just ignores him.

Dora teaches us that there are many people out there who would like us to change to fit their “normal” mode and would like us to view the world through their eyes. There are also people out there that will call us “weird” for being different and will bully us to the point of questioning who we are. There are also people out there that might be filled with so much negative energy that they can never understand your positive mindset and will ask you to gain their negative perspective.

But you can not change. You can not allow people, circumstances and events in your life to alter your state of mind and the core sense of who you are. There will be many people who will try to knock you down and change who you are because of something INSIDE of THEM. There will be people who will question your authenticity and your positive outlook on life but it’s a REFLECTION of THEM and their own struggles with self.

Dora stayed true to herself in the film and she never altered who she was as a person. She might have questioned it from time to time, but in the end she was self aware and self assured and then she helped others become better versions of THEMSELVES. She affected their negative outlook and assisted them in seeing that there was more to life than “fitting in” and being “competitive”. She allowed them to see that we are all special in our own way and each and every one of us has assets that the world needs.

So live a little like Dora everyday. Be “weird”, be positive, but always be YOU and never change your positive outlook on life for anyone. – Peace and Love

Quick Thought Session 32: Believe in Yourself Even When Things Become Difficult

There are times when the light is shining so brightly on you that you can absorb all the Vitamin C and become super confident. You feel energized and charged with a magnetism to get things moving. You are radiating with an invisible force that propels you to start something that you never thought you could or would before.

But then you hit a roadblock and you start to doubt if what you had started was really worth it to begin with. Things are not manifesting the way you had envisioned them. Your ducks are not lining up in a row and you feel exhausted, confused, and a strong desire to give up.

I have been there. Hell, I am there right now. I feel like sometimes what I am doing isn’t worth all the effort and that no one will even see the light of day of this blog (thank you to the ones that do) and I feel like giving up. But I also know that deep in side of me that I am seeking out my life’s purpose. This is what drives me everyday to sit at my computer and write. I just write and whatever flows, flows. I have to learn to accept that things take time and what I want to manifest will eventually come, but it may not be the way that I have planned.

My advice to you, take that feeling that you have in the pit of your stomach and use it to keep going. You know in your heart and in the back of your mind, that whatever you want, will come true. You just can’t give up. Doubting yourself is normal and doubt will always be there, however, you must learn to push doubt aside and fight for what you want. There will be times, when you will quit. Take those times to reset, relax, meditate, and reevaluate your game plan. Once you take these mini-breaks of self doubt and reassess what you want and how you’re going to get it, the journey will become a bit easier everyday. You got this booboo!

Quick Thought Session 31: Don’t Compare Yourself To Others

It’s so easy to compare ourselves to other people, especially when we are programmed that way since we are little. We are taught that “you should be like so and so”, “why couldn’t you try as hard as so and so”, or “look at so and so, they are so put together”. These innocent statements were made to push us to become better people by trying to convince us to not be hesitant, not scared, and more sure of ourselves but it has just caused us so much inner turmoil and a never ending battle with our self image.

We must learn to not allow how we were brought up to control our present and future dealings in shaping our views of ourselves. We must look inward, oppose to looking outward, in helping us define who we are. I know this is easier said than done but we are all a work in process and every day we should strive to be better and not allow past grievances to rule our mental capacity. We have so much to offer the Universe individually and when we compare ourselves to others, it suppresses our own individual greatness. Strive to be great by being who you are and who you are is not so and so. – Peace and love.