Quick Thought Session 19: Stop Making Everything about You!

Okay booboo, I came to you for advice. I really wanted to open to you and share whatever the hell I was going through at that particular moment in time but instead of listening to me you made it about you.

“Oh why didn’t I tell you before?”

“Why weren’t you the first to hear my cries?”

“Oh what is it about you that I didn’t want to open up to first?”

Stop! Hold up! Wait a minute. I am here now, asking you for help. This right now isn’t about you but about me. If you can’t lend me an ear and help me out with my issues, then you know there will no next time especially when you just made it about you.

Booboo, not everything revolves around you. Sometimes people aren’t going to put you as their number one go to person for their problems. That is not their job. They aren’t here to build your ego and stroke your arm. They are here to live their best life that they need to live. Your job is to have a bit of compassion by listening and not turning it around into a “me, me, me” situation. Because next time, I will not go to you and I will seek out someone else who doesn’t turn my issues around into a “you” issue.

So, next time just listen. Be my friend and try not to overanalyze everything. Give me a hug and let us do something fun together. You got this!

Being Thankful For Even The Smallest Things

So I began this blog in February with no views and no likes and no followers.  I knew going into this it was going to be slow and steady (I am a Capricorn for crying out loud), but It’s July now.  When I first checked on my blog posts, I still saw no views, no likes and certainly no followers still, lol. I wasn’t upset about it because I knew things take time and maybe my time wasn’t right now.

Last night (July 16, 2019) I wrote a blog and before I went to bed I checked on my activity level and lo and behold I had gained ONE follower. YES!  I was so excited. I know you’re thinking “oh it’s just one follower, I have 50K”, or “that’s no big deal”.  Trust me, it WAS/IS a big deal to me.  That one follower that I gained last night helped me feel that I could do anything. Thank you for giving me that sense of self that I needed to believe in myself.  You have no idea what impact you have given to me at the moment and will continue to give me throughout this journey and with that, I thank you.

I went to bed feeling elated and having my husband roll his eyes at me, lol.  When I woke up this morning I saw that I had two additional views.  Again, I was ecstatic! It inspired me to write this post about appreciating everything in life, even the things you may seem as not as important. I say, they are just as important or even more.

Be thankful for the things you do have and the experiences you go through.  I am incredibly thankful when a stranger smiles at me and helps lift up my spirits. I love seeing others give up their seat for someone else when they need it more. I enjoy the laughter that comes from my daughter.

When you are thankful, the universe opens up more possibilities for you.  It gives you exactly what you put out.  If you are a positive person and are focus on your goals, the universe will help deliver whatever it is that you want; you just need to be grateful.

so, I am grateful for my new (and first) followers. I thank you for coming on this journey with me. I thank you for allowing me to be myself and appreciating what I have to offer.  Thank you for your kindness.

“Do you ever get down on your knees and thank God you know me and have access to my dementia?” – George Costanza, Seinfeld