Maintaining Our Self-Worth While Still Being Self-Less

Are you the type that tends to gravitate towards people who are in constant need of help? Are you the type who rises above every challenge and tries your best to solve every situation with a solution? Do you ever find yourself exhausted and overwhelmed by everyone and their own personal needs? If your answer is “yes” then you need to reevaluate how you are to other people but especially to yourself.

Being a self less person is exhausting in and of itself. However, it can be more damaging when you are giving to people who consistently demand it from you without thinking of your own well-being. These people or circumstances can have a damaging effect on your psyche and your sense of self-worth.

You may begin to experience that your happiness is not as important as theirs, or you may simply start to neglect your own needs to help maintain theirs. You start to lose the balance you once had and are now on a downward spiral of “looking out for others” only.

We must first examine why we do these things. We must look within ourselves and find out what is the root of this and how we got here in the first place. We must look inward and examine the deep buried secrets that we have chosen to ignore time and time again. We must be first honest with ourselves about who we are as a person and what makes us tick.

It all begins in examining the choices we have made along the way and the patterns that have been emerging time and time again. Are you repeating the same behaviors that have gotten you here? Are you resisting change when you know change is good for you? Are you holding onto past events that no longer suit you? Are you allowing the thoughts and words of others about you define you?

Let me first help you realign yourself to the higher good.

  1. Ask the Universe a question about yourself and how you can overcome your negative thoughts.
  2. Close your eyes and breathe a huge sigh of relief.
  3. Now keep breathing in and out until you become truly in a relaxed state.
  4. If you need to, add some meditation music.
  5. Keep breathing and allow the thoughts to flow in and out of you.
  6. Don’t resist anything and let go of everything at the same time; meaning allow your thoughts to come to you and then release but don’t resist the thoughts.
  7. Eventually your mind will clear (probably within a few minutes to 10 minutes depending on how resistant you are), and your body will soon relax.
  8. The Universe will begin answering you in some way shape or form. The Universe will begin to help guide you back to helping yourself. Trust in it and believe in it.
  9. I advise to meditate at least 20 minutes a day to help you realign to your true self.

We never want to let go completely and lose ourselves in other people’s issues because eventually they become ours. We must maintain our sense of self worth while still helping others to gravitate towards a higher power. If others in your life can not move past their own issues, then you need to reevaluate if you really want this person in your life or not. Your happiness is just as important as everybody else’s! – Peace and Love

The NeverEnding Story Urges You to Live Your Dreams

Growing up in the 1980s and 1990s were pure joy in my opinion. The internet and cellphones where a thing of the future while Saturday morning cartoons were our weekly dose of untainted laughter and life lessons. Even though we didn’t have the explosion of social media and internet Influencers, what we did have was unadulterated imagination and our own unique ability to create it.

We were explorers, adventurers and creators of our own world back then. We built forts out of our couches and we stayed out all day and night playing with the neighborhood kids. It was very similar to being in a real “NeverEnding Story”.

This year marks the 35th year anniversary of when the film first came out and that movie has remained in my life as one of my favorites. Since the reintroduction of the theme song in “Stranger Things”, it has sparked an urge to rewatch the movie after many years of living an “adult life”. I not only wanted to re-experience the child-like wonder I had as a child, but I also wanted to introduce it to my own child. I finally convinced my very opinionated four-year-old to take a seat with me on the couch and to watch one of my favorite movies.

As the opening credits appeared, my heart exploded with nostalgia. It was like I was in a time machine, dancing to the theme song and trying to sing to it, much to the chagrin of my daughter (she kept repeating,”well this is strange” lol).

As a child I was never afraid of Gmork, but I was intrigued and curious about “The Nothing”. I interpreted “The Nothing” as hopelessness and sadness and how it can take on many negative forms, thus how it can be in all of us. I also knew that Imagination was the only thing to defeat it.

As an adult watching it, I began to interpret that “The NeverEnding Story” was a cautionary tale about becoming an adult and losing ones way through bitterness, depression, heartache and a low sense of self. The movie instantly reminded me that what I was seeing, was what I had been exactly going through in recent years. That I (you), can be like Bastian but so wanting to be like Atreyu. Bastian consistently doubted his abilities, while Atreyu knew he had to complete his quest to save the Empress.

Bastian and Atreyu are one in the same. We are all combinations of Bastian and Atreyu but we tend to allow our self doubts to overtake us and we run in fear, instead of walking on in determination. The scene with the Sphinx Gate is where I made the connection between Bastian and Atreyu. Atreyu embodied confidence and boldness; he knew he could get past the gates. However, Bastian began to doubt whether Atreyu will make it or not and screams out for him to run, with Atreyu barely missing the lasers from the Sphinx’s eyes.

This sense of doubt nearly kills off his hero and it nearly kills off all of our confidence. Once we get a bright idea, we are filled with confidence and a strong sense of urgency, but as we get closer to begin the task at hand (whatever it may be) we back off and end up staying where we are at. We never try to pursue our dreams or goals and we watch as our lives drift by while our dreams die with us.

But if we allow ourselves to dream bigger and actually pursue what we want in the real world, we realize that we are the only one that is capable of creating our future. Once we realize that Atreyu is in all of us and that WE are the ones who control our destiny, the future is endless.

I encourage you to take that one grain of sand and keep on building until you never stop. That one idea, that one dream you’ve always thought about could be your first step into an unknown but magical future. So say “your name”, and take that first step into the abyss and build the future you want.

“To me, if life boils down to one thing, it’s movement. To live is to keep moving.” – Jerry Seinfeld

4 Reasons To Allow Anyone Back Into your Life

Reminiscing about the good old times could have you thinking about the past and wanting to reconnect with old friends and past lovers, but is it really worth pursuing? Is entering that realm really worth enhancing your present state? Do you think you can pursue better friendships with these individuals knowing what you knew about them back then?

I think for anyone to move forward in their life, the first part is forgiveness. You must forgive anyone who walked away from you previously or who has caused you any harm. It is not for their benefit but yours and yours only. Once you can accept the past and keep it behind you, then you can have an open heart to have any one reenter it.

However, there are many factors to consider before you allow anyone to affect your positive vibe because that is the only thing that should matter to you at this point. If you’re at a point in your life where the past was holding you back, I would not suggest reopening any doors that may unbalance your energy. Your energy must always be aligned to to who you are truly are.

Since this is a truly positive place of interactions and positive energy, I want to only examine the reasons why you should allow anyone back in. Please review the reasons below:

Reason Number 1: They apologize to you. This does not mean an actual apology but their actions show they are apologetic in the ways they have caused you harm. Hearing the words and doing the exact opposite is justification to walk away, but if their actions are genuine, then it’s important to allow people the benefit of the doubt.

Reason Number 2: Your energy stays the same. No matter who you’re with and what you’ve been through with this person, you still have the same energy with or without them. You are only allowing the good energy to flow between the two of you without any conflict or tension. You are at peace with them and are able to be your authentic self.

Reason Number 3: You’re happy. You are happy in spite of them and not because of them. Your interactions are positive and you are able to be yourself around them. If they consistently bring a smile to your face, then move forward with your friendship.

Reason Number 4: They enhance your life. If someone comes into your life and tries to help you in any way that you need, I think it’s important to allow them to help you. The Universe brought them back to help guide you along your path, as long as it remains positive. Embrace the positivity that the Universe is giving you, even if it was from the past, is very important to helping you grow.

Contemplating about allowing anyone who has caused you harm back into your life is a serious matter. Only allow people who are in a better place now and who can actually contribute positive energy into your world. If they do not meet any of these broad criteria, keep them forever locked up in the past. Your happiness is worth more than allowing “negative feelings” and “negative emotions” back into your life. – Peace and Love