Love Letter #73

Come pick me up

lets go for a ride

run away from our daily grind 

of what we “have to do”

to  what we “want to do”

which is each other

tossing me in the air 

as I wrap my legs around you

caressing my back as I kiss your neck

hearing you moan

pulling me tighter

lifting up my skirt 

quick release of our desires

it’s over before I can say it feels good

until I see you again

I’ll be ready

 for the next ride

The “Love Letters” Series will be a collection of poetry written for and about love. Please comments below if you’re enjoying my thoughts and words. Some of these poems can be read as “Spoken Word” or a “Rap Song” or with a “Taylor Swift” angst, lol. – Peace and Love

Quick Thought Session 35: Try Not To Compare Your Child To Other Children

Before we have children we think about how we would raise them and how they would turn out to be. We also think about the ways we are going to instill all the knowledge into them that we have to help learned to help prepare them for the real world. But then we forget about the other little monsters walking around. Our competitive nature can overtake us subconsciously and then our little ones become more of an extension of how a “good” parent we are. Then our focus shifts away from “helping them to figure out who they are” to “how better you can be”.

When we see other people’s children walking around and being successful and doing things that are children aren’t even doing yet, our envious side kicks in and then we begin to feel inadequate as a parent. And then the push begins for our children to be like the “others”. This attitude of “competitiveness” is due in part to our own inward reflections of who we are and we extend that to our own child. We see our children as valuable creatures who represent us (most of us do this) and when we see our child struggling with something, we become self-conscious and think “What is wrong with my child? What is wrong with me?” I have seen this time and time again from parents during Parent/Teacher Conferences and it is heart breaking.

It is heartbreaking because parents think they have failed when their child isn’t performing as well as they would hope and become frustrated when their child is struggling with a concept. Instead of encouraging them by offering assistance or understanding, I see parents chastise their child and make them feel like they can never struggle. And then the comments about “so and so doing so well” and “Why are you struggling? You should know this!” Instead of waiting for an answer, they continue to berate their child and make them feel like they aren’t good enough. I know this is not intentional and parents are well intended but the look on their child’s faces and the body language they exhibit speaks volumes to me.

Parents, your child is an individual who was brought into this world by you. Your child has their own unique abilities and characteristics that are embedded into them. We must learn to encourage them to think on their own and discover their own strengths and weaknesses. We must learn to accept their struggles and help them figure out solutions, but we must learn to feed their souls. Tearing them down and comparing them to other children will only create an adult who will grow up continuously trying to “one-up” everyone. They will only want outside validation but crave mental clarity, while struggling internally on what they want out of life.

As adults, we love our children but sometimes our judgements are clouded by how we were brought up and our own insecurities. We must learn to take care of those and not allow to pass down that mind set onto our own children. Learning to end the cycle of self-criticism will really help all of us in the long run and it will create confident, strong human beings who truly love themselves. And who wouldn’t want more of that? – Peace and Love

Love Letter #72

I don’t know what I did wrong

for you to make me feel like I never belong

when I just want to lie in your arms

as you caress me and feeling no harm

I don’t know what I did wrong

to push you away and tell me you didn’t love me

you made my heart full and filled with youthful glee

I wanted to do everything with you and everything for you

I wanted to complete you as you completed me

I thought we were young so inlove and carefree

I don’t know what I did wrong

I thought we were better together and strong

I filled your face with a smile so bright

You told me all my sorrows will go away 

and everything would be alright

I don’t know what I did wrong

to make you not love meam I not good enough

tell me please

so I could be what you want me to be

The “Love Letters” Series will be a collection of poetry written for and about love. Please comments below if you’re enjoying my thoughts and words. Some of these poems can be read as “Spoken Word” or a “Rap Song” or with a “Taylor Swift” angst, lol. – Peace and Love