It’s been a hard road getting to 40 years old but it’s even harder trying to find my next chapter in life. Figuring out what inspires me and fills me with passion has been a struggle. However, I am having hope.
This morning, while I was scrolling through my Facebook feed, one of my old friends (who I used to party with) posted about 40 year olds (and older) having a midlife career change and being successful at it. My eyes quickly filled up with tears knowing that there was indeed hope for me and that my life hasn’t stopped because I “quit” something to pursue my happiness.
A few weeks back my husband messaged me with a link about celebrities who made it big after 40 and even then I was filled with emotions of hopefulness. However, the link that my friend provided was even better because they were relatable. I don’t want to be famous, not even remotely, I just want to find my happiness and go for it. The struggle is figuring that out. However, my future does look brighter knowing that this isn’t the end for me and that I am NOT a loser for doing something most people wouldn’t dare do. I just HAD to and I am glad I did.
And yeah I do feel like a “loser” at times because well, shouldn’t I be doing something with my life? Shouldn’t I have a career by now? Shouldn’t I know what the fuck I am doing with my life? But you know what, it’s okay not to know and it’s okay to start over. But it’s not okay to think I am a “loser” either.
I am still receiving questions about reentering education and I am always responding with an emphatic “no”, not because I don’t miss it, but because it’s just not for me anymore. And the way things are looking, it’s just going to get worse. And I don’t want to get and feel worse than I have already felt for the past few years.
So has anyone of you made a big career change? Has anyone of you made the huge decision to change your entire life around? Please let me know how it was and how you got out of this “stagnant” stage. – Peace and Love