With any recent setback in life, whether it be a job loss, loss of a peer or family member or a loved one, we sometimes get into a rut where our energy levels are at their lowest point. Instead of allowing our hearts and emotions to heal in a healthy way, we find physical things to help fill the void.
These physical things could be food, sex, drugs, alcohol, etc. While we are engaging in these physical acts, we are temporary relieved from our pains but we realized that after the initial euphoria subsides, we are left feeling restless and empty. We are fueling our bodies with our guilty pleasures hoping that they would take away our sorrows and fill us with a sense of peace and tranquility. However, as in your own personal experiences, you know that this is not the case at all.
What usually follows after drowning a whole bottle of wine (or two), eating that box of cookies, or engaging in promiscuous activities (that goes against who you are), are feelings of guilt, shame, and remorse. You end up beating yourself up even more emotionally and now not only have you drowned your body physically, your mental capacity has plummeted even more so. You begin to speak words of anger towards yourself, you whisper unkind words that are untrue about yourself and then you deprive yourself of happiness by locking yourself away from the sunshine. The shame over takes you and you dig yourself deeper and deeper into that hole you dug up for yourself. These are all symptoms of disconnection and we must learn to balance our connection to who we are.
This disconnection is brought about from the idea that we are “lacking”. This idea of “lacking” is unique to every individual but it is always resulting in a disconnect from our self. We must begin to realign ourselves and observe what happens before and what happens after our disconnection. What are the patterns that we see? What set of ideas are we thinking before and after? How are we feeling before this disconnection occurs and how do we feel after? Jot down your answers to these questions and examine what patterns are continuously forming every time you disconnect. Once you determine the pattern(s), you can start making changes.
These changes can be in the form of meditation (one that I am doing daily now), joining a club with like minded people, practicing yoga, doing something creative (writing, drawing), joining a running club or start exercising. Whatever inspires you to reconnect, tells us where we should go to find that inner peace that we are all seeking. When we find the place that we are meant to be, we become consumed by its constant creation and we begin to forget how to fill those empty voids in our lives with negative physical things.
Let us all try to find what makes us joyous and what makes us want to create in a positive way to avoid any frivolous consumptions that are not good for our souls. – Peace and Love