2019 seems to be the year we all make vast changes in our lives, whether it be ending a relationship (love or platonic) or exiting a job profession that does not satisfy our souls. Most individuals that I have come across, particularly in my generation, have decided to walk away from things that no longer make them happy. But how did they do it? How did they know when enough was enough? Speaking to these individuals I have come up with a list of reasons why you HAVE to move on to the next chapter in order for your life to be more fulfilling.
- You’re expected to sacrifice your time . On July 2019 I recently resigned from my job as a teacher due to the fact that it was consistently taking over my personal life, or what was left of it. Bringing work home and/or staying late was beginning to affect my relationships with my immediate family and my social life was disappearing. I knew it was time to go when I was thinking more of my career than my own family. This can also apply to a romantic or platonic relationship: if you are consistently compromising your time and bending over backwards for others without them trying to accommodate you, then you do not matter to them. If people want to be with you or be friends with you, they will make the effort to see you; you shouldn’t have to always work around their schedules or it will always be a one sided relationship.
- You’re expected to question your core values. When we first begin anything, we are all misty eyed and fulled with adoration. We get sucked into the future of possibilities and then boom, something happens. You are asked to do something that makes you question who you are. Whatever it is, it goes against what you believe in and what you stand for as a person. You even start contemplating going over the edge because you’re filled with the need to please the other party. If you are asked to do something that you know isn’t right for you, it’s time to take a step back, turn around and run the other way as fast as you can.
- You’re expected to change while the other refuses to do so. With every relationship and through out life we go through multiple transformations and we shed any old skin that does not help benefit our growth. However, we shouldn’t sacrifice our own self worth to please others when they would not change for the better for themselves. If we know we need to change our negative habits, then we must do so but we must do it on our own accord. If you see a relationship and you want to make things work, both parties must be willing to come together and figure out what works and what does not work.
- You’re made to feel “not good enough”. If you are starting to question your self worth around this person or situation and all you do is “try your best” but “your best” is never good enough, keep it moving. They will never ever SEE YOU no matter how hard you try. I tried so hard at my job as a teacher but I was made to feel like shit. It was tired-some and exhausting both emotionally and mentally. When you start questioning if you are ever good enough, you will never be if you continue to stay.
- You’re made to compete with others. When someone is constantly pitting others against you and comparing you to others, it’s a toxic relationship. You start to feel inferior and you start questioning if you could ever win their affection and/or respect. You begin to change yourself, and not always for the better. You start doing questionable things to just prove that you’re better. Life isn’t a competition, there is enough for everyone. Anyone who makes you feel like you need to compete with others to earn their love and/or respect is on a total power trip and they have no regards for you as a human being.
- You’re forced to censor yourself. If you are not able to express your thoughts and opinions about something without being criticized, then its best to part ways. Your opinions should matter to the other person regardless how they feel. A sensible person will hear out what the other has to say with the intention of trying to understand without trying to respond. It’s important that you’re able to say what you like (without malicious intent) without having to question what you should and should not say.
- You’re not happy. This seems obvious, duh. But how many people do we know stay in relationships because they don’t want to be alone but are MISERABLE? Yes, plenty. Being happy is important. I don’t care what people tell you; that it’s fleeting or there is no such thing. They are wrong. You can be happy and you deserve to be happy. Taking the first step is always difficult but it isn’t impossible. If you’re struggling with a relationship that makes you unhappy, its really time to evaluate if the relationship is right or good enough for you.
If you have met 50% or more on this list, I strongly advise you to use your guidance system to help you choose the right path for you. Even if you’re unsure about what you want, you at least know what you do NOT want. You do not want to feel inferior, compromised, not good enough and unhappy. You deserve all the riches the Universe has in store for you. You just need to take the next step by walking away and never looking back.
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