Words are very powerful. They could help fix any broken heart or they cut you like a knife. If you’re one of those people who dwell on what others say or takes what someone says personally, then you know how important it is to choose your words wisely when interacting with others. It could be a challenging act, but it is one that must be given your full attention because it could change how others feel about you, about themselves and also how you feel about yourself.
What you say could be just as important or even more important than how you treat others (I am not saying one is more important than the other, but different people respond to things differently). It could make someone who was once self-assured begin to question their self-worth. It could also help strengthen someone’s view on themselves and helps drive them to achieve their goals.
As a parent and as a teacher, I have been made more aware of my words. As a parent, what I say greatly affects my daughter’s drive, self esteem and how she interacts with the world. Don’t get me wrong, I am not perfect and I have messed up A LOT along the way but I have also apologized when I have made a mistake in invalidating her feelings. Being a parent has made me stop and analyze the words that would best help her (even when I just want to scream) in any situation. I’ve learned to not “react” so much to her actions but try to figure out what is going on instead of “assuming”. I’ve learned to ask her more questions on why she did what she did. As a child who was brought up in a strict household, I knew I didn’t want to repeat the same patterns of self-doubt and not having the ability to express oneself. I knew that I needed to be more aware of my words and the affects that it could have on my daughter.
Even as a teacher, I was made aware of my words through the interactions with my students. My job was to teach them but that required motivating them and influencing them with my words. I could have had the best lesson in the world on paper but if my delivery and the way I felt about it wasn’t expressed through my feelings and my words, most of my students would not have wanted to accomplish what I had brought forth. Of course, they had the motivational drive to want to do it, but I had to be the bridge in cultivating the “wanting” through my feelings and my words that were presented throughout the day. I had to speak words of wisdom and not words of criticism. I had to find words to inspire not words that undermined their intelligence.
With knowing what words are important to say to help uplift others, we find that we can influence anyone towards their greatest potential. We are not using words to try to “control” anyone because that is not the reason for our existence, but it’s important to understand that we are all connected in some way and our words truly connect us. If we speak words of love, we will receive love in return. If we speak words of hate, we will receive hate in return. So when we speak, we should be mindful of what comes out our mouths because what we say could change the world drastically, and it should be for the good of all mankind.
So go forth and speak words of love, even to your enemies. You never know what your words can do for others but you should want to help and heal them instead of hurting them. When we help and heal others, we are helping and healing ourselves too along the way. – Peace and Love