The people who have impacted your life in the past were there for many reasons beyond your understanding, but they were meant to be there for the time being. Some may even re-enter your life to remind you of the lessons that you still need to learn about yourself in either a positive or negative way. Cherish these people because they have helped you develop into a stronger version of yourself, even the ones who brought you immense pain.
When you really want something, you're at your highest level of consciousness because what flows through you is of joy and happiness. It is not a yearning for things to change or for things to be different, but a feeling that this is what life is all about: being joyful and connected. Imagine all that you can imagine about your dream job and think about it with feelings of wonder and satisfaction. Allow your positive feelings to overtake you and your self-confidence to obtaining it explode.
We are all selfish human beings but the good ones know not to take advantage of other people and their kindness. They know not to try to knock people down for their own benefit and they try their hardest to listen and understand one another. These are the kind of people you need and want in your life.
If the phone calls and conversations are about what they need and how you could help them it could lead you to become affected by their problems and issues and thus, all you think about is them. When you allow allows to control your thoughts with their feelings and emotions, it causes your focus to lose control.