Happy 50th Birthday Jennifer Lopez!

Today July 24th, 2019 marks Jennifer Lopez’s 50th birthday! I still remember her being on “In Living Color” as a “Fly Girl” and as a backup dancer for Janet Jacket. Her quick rise once “On the 6” record hit the radio waves was such a phenomenal event in the 90’s musical era. Hit after hit, you just wanted to jam in your pjs or dance in the club. I still want to dance to those jams to this day.

Not only is she still relevant today with her tour for “It’s my Party”, her role in the upcoming “Hustler’s” movie, but can we comment on how BEAUTIFUL Jenny from the block still looks? Now I know what you’re thinking: well she has the time, the money, and makeup artists and trainers…and that’s her job for crying out loud. Yes ALL of this is true, but what if I told you there was more to it than meets the eye?

What if I told you I suspect that her mindset is only of youth and sexiness? What if she uses the Law of the Attraction? Since 1999, Jlo has literally looked the same, some might even say she looks even better than before. It is not a fluke and it is not just about having trainers, money or time to maintain her physique and her overall sex appeal. Jennifer Lopez has consistently showed us that she’s FIRST and that it’s important to keep oneself feeling sexy.

There are many artists who struggle with staying relevant and feeling sex. They have the money and time but are struggling with their self image. However, JLo is still rocking rock hard abs and strutting some nice arm candy (A-Rod anyone?). Even though Jennifer Lopez has admitted that she has struggled with self image and acceptance (who hasn’t?) I think overall her mind set is full of positive energy radiating youth and sexiness. This mindset over powers any negative ones and she has maintained her glowing energy. If you don’t believe me, let’s examine some of her songs and lyrics:

  1. Jenny From the Block: Don’t be fooled by the rocks that I got; I’m still, I’m still Jenny from the block; Used to have a little, now I have a lot; No matter where I go, I know where I came from (from the Bronx!). – Here JLo tells us she’s still her, no matter what happens.
  2. If You Had My Love: Now if I give you me, this is how it’s got to be; First of all I won’t take your cheating on me; Tell me who can I trust if I can’t trust in you;And I refuse to let you play me for a fool – JLo does not play! She’s telling you you better treat her right and always be honest with each other.
  3. Love Don’t Cost a Thing: All that matter’s is; That you treat me right; Give me all the things I need;That money can’t buy yeah. – Stop showing off and be you. She’ll love you even if you’re a broke fool, just don’t be a fool!
  4. Ain’t Your Mama: We used to be crazy in love; Can we go back to how it was?; When did you get too comfortable?; ‘Cause I’m too good for that, I’m too good for that; Just remember that, hey. – She’s not here trying to take care of you; get your act together and be a MAN.
  5. Feelin’ So Good: When I opened up my eyes today; Felt the sun shining on my face; It became so clear to me; That everything is going my way; I feel like there’s no limit to what I can see; Got rid of my fears that were holding me; My endless possibilities; Has the whole world opened up for me; That’s why I’m feeling. – JLo baby knows her worth and she’s not allowing anything or anyone stand in her way.

I know there are numerous other songs I could possibly list but I personally enjoy these the most. Jennifer Lopez is the epitome of sexiness and she’s proved that self worth is the key ingredient to it. Do yourself a favor and take a decade or two out of JLo’s discography. I am really looking forward to see how she looks at 60 but more importantly I am looking forward to still being sexy until the day I die.

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HOW THE “HOT GIRL SUMMER”TREND EMULATES THE LAW OF ATTRACTION.

The “Hot Girl Summer” trend is hitting the internet by storm and most woman AND men are embracing it with a bit of bravado, sex appeal and a nasty taste of self esteem. But what is “Hot Girl Summer”?

The “Hot Girl Summer” idea was brought to you by Megan Thee Stallion , a rising Rapper from the Houston area. I have honestly never even heard of her before but I did see a quick clip with her luscious green hair on the television one day introducing her idea what “Hot Girl Summer” meant. In her own words through her twitter account: @theestallion, “Being a Hot Girl is about being unapologetically YOU, having fun, being confident, living YOUR truth , being the life of the party etc”.”

So how does the Law of Attraction mirror “Hot Girl Summer”? The Law of Attraction is the ability to attract into our lives in whatever we are focusing on. The Law of Attraction uses the power of your mind (whatever you are thinking) and materializes them into reality. If you are thinking about being confident, being sexy AND then feeling it, you’re going to attract just that into your life. If you are bringing your best self forward and being a baddie, then you’re going to receive the same loving fun back to you. If you do not care what others think of you and you’re just living your best life, then the Universe will reward you with an amazing life.

Embrace the “Hot Girl Summer” and do what makes you happy. Be unapologetic and be uniquely you. No one else is like you and you’re not like anyone else, so embrace who you are because who you are is uniquely HOT.

“I hereby declare this summer the summer of George!” – George Costanza; Seinfeld

How To Be A Bad B*tch Like Cardi B

When Cardi B first came out onto the scene I resisted with such intensity; shoot I was still holding out for Lil Kim and Lauryn Hill to make an epic come back. But soon I realized that I needed to stop living in the past and start living in the now and recognize that Cardi is seriously a bad motherf*cker.

What makes her so ill? Well here are my 5 reasons why she’s such a bad b*tch:

  1. She lives with no regrets. Cardi B has a past and has always readily admitted that she was a stripper. She doesn’t allow her past to define her but knows how it has helped her become who she is today. “People say, ‘Why do you always got to say that you used to be a stripper? We get it.’ Because y’all don’t respect me because of it, and y’all going to respect these strippers from now on. Just because somebody was a stripper don’t mean they don’t have no brain.” We all have a past and that past should not be filled with guilt or shame but help uplift ourselves to become a better version of who we are meant to be.
  2. She’s unapologetic and honest. Let’s be real, Cardi says whatever comes to her mind and she has been brutally honest with the mistakes in her life. In March 2019, a video resurfaced on the Internet explaining how she used to drug and rob the men she used to strip for. (I want to first point out that I do NOT condone this but I will not judge her here since this is a judge free platform). When the video resurfaced she has stated that she regrets some of the choices she has made in her life but had to do what she had to do. “I never glorified the things I brought up in that live , I never even put those things in my music because I’m not proud of it and feel a responsibility not to glorify it.” Even if we do make mistakes, we acknowledge them and then try to move past them by making better choices. I respect that about her and her ability to not back down when confronted by criticism.
  3. She’s living the life she has always wanted. Money has been a big deal in Cardi B’s life and what better way to explain her love of money but through her lyrics and videos. She’s manifested whatever she has been given by thinking about it, breathing it and living it. We should only focus on the things we want and not on the things we do not.
  4. She’s supporting people that has helped her along the way. One person who I highly respect in Cardi B’s circle is her nail technician/artist Jenny Bui. Jenny Bui is a refugee from Cambodia that has been self made through the creation of her nail art. When she first met Cardi B she knew she was going to be famous and figured Cardi might forget about her. Fast forward five years later and Jenny Bui is still repping Cardi’s nails. Always remember the people who have supported you and encouraged you along the way; whether it was through their brutal honestly or tough love, you have to give it to people who believed in you before anyone else would.
  5. She stands up for what she believes in. In recent days Cardi B posted an instagram post with a picture of Ilhan Omar, a Congresswomen from Minnesota who became a naturalized citizen of the United States in the year 2000, with the caption “You know you that bitch when you cause this conversation”; in response to President Trump’s tweets. Regardless of your politically affiliation, Cardi B uses her platform to fight and speak about topics that she cares about. If you have the ability to help others and help the world, why not do it?

So let’s all take a chapter out of Cardi B’s book and learn to better ourselves in our own way. We all have the potential to be great, but we must first act like we have the potential.

“I think us bad bitches is a gift from God (gift from God); I think you broke hoes need to get a job (get a job); Now I’m a boss, I write my own name on the checks (Cardi); P*ssy so good, I say my own name during sex.” – Cardi B, I Do lyrics

HOW CARDI B MANIFESTS MORE MONEY INTO HER LIFE AND HOW YOU CAN TOO

We all think about money, whether it be not having enough or wanting more, but we never really think about the money we want NOW. Talking about money in the present tense when you do not have it can be downright difficult but it isn’t impossible. It’s simply putting your mind into the “money making mode”. What better artist exemplifies this example, than Cardi B of course.

You do not need to listen to her lyrics closely to know this chick loves money and making money. And what’s really special about her? She does not give a flying sh*t what anyone thinks about her, her past and her future goals. And you know what, she shouldn’t. She is living what she has been manifesting throughout her rise to the top. Let’s examine some of her lyrics below.

Bodak Yellow: I’m there, I get paid a fee; I be in and out them banks so much; I know they’re tired of me.

I Like It: Now I like dollars, I like diamonds; I like stunting, I like shining; I like million dollar deals; Where’s my pen? Bitch I’m signin’; I like those Balenciagas, the ones that look like socks; I like going to the jeweler, I put rocks all in my watch.

Press: Must be that whip that I ordered (ordered); And a new crib for my daughter (daughter); You know a bad bitch gon’ spoil her; Got one in New York, need one in Georgia (yeah); New Bentley truck cost a quarter (quarter); My money still long like weave (woo)

Money: I was born to flex (Yes); Diamonds on my neck; I like boardin’ jets, I like mornin’ sex (Woo!); But nothing in this world that I like more than checks (Money).

Love her or loathe her, you must admit her lyrics and her beats inspire you to get whatever it is that you want, especially if it is money. You must set your mind into how much and when you think it will happen. Leave the “how” alone for now and let yourself believe in the magic of manifestation. Cardi B believed she’ll get to the top and from the looks of it, nothing is stopping her. Nothing should stop you or stand in your way of your millions. If you do not feel inspired, play one of her songs and get yourself into that mood. Create a playlist that changes your attitude from “need” to “have”. Soon you’ll feel like your “born to flex with diamonds on your neck”.

“People don’t turn down money! It’s what separates us from the animals.” – Jerry Seinfeld, Seinfeld

FOLLOWING BILLIE EILISH’S EXAMPLE THROUGH HER WARDROBE

I am not hip to today’s music; I have literally become a stereotype of an old person. Dismissing today’s music as garbage, sticking to my oldie but goodie collection (80’s and 90’s music) and basically not knowing any of the latest musical artists.  I am old (okay not that old but I might as well be based on the above description).

One day, I invited one of my students to talk to me during lunch because she seemed really withdrawn and I was really worried about her.  I have had her the previous year in the 6th grade where I noticed she was bubbly and very sociable.  This year in the 7th grade, she’s become a recluse, keeping to herself and stating that she doesn’t want any friends. This worried me greatly so I wanted to talk to her.

I asked her what she was interested in and she stated “Billie Eilish”. Being me and an old geezer, I was like “Uh, what, who?”. She stated she was a singer and that she enjoyed listening to her music.  I was sitting at my desk at the time and opened up my laptop.  I typed in YouTube.com on the URL bar and then typed in Billie Eilish once the site was open.

Whoa, my mind was blown. I honestly didn’t know how to respond about this young lady. She had a beautiful voice but her videos were somewhat disturbing.  Being a judge-mental  person who is trying to have an open mind simply stated, “wow, she’s interesting. A little depressing but interesting nevertheless.” My student laughed at my response and reassured me that she’s an amazing artist and that she was only 17 years old (5 years older than my student).

A few months went by and I stumbled upon an article: Billie Eilish Reveals Why She Always Covers Up In Baggy Clothes. I was intrigued and in awe of this young lady.  Here she was stating her truth and the way she wanted to live her life.  She reveals in the article that she does not want others to judge her based on her body, therefore she covers up to not encourage criticism. I can respect that.

We have so many musical artists showing off their bodies (note: there is nothing wrong with this), but then you have a 17-year-old who rather not be judge by the shape of her body and what it looks like.  You are forced now to listen to her music, enjoy her visualization brought out by her music videos and appreciate her lyrics.  I am sure people will still judge her on her outfit choices regardless but “fuck the haters”.  She doesn’t care and the Universe does not either.  She’s sending a message out to the Universe that she will create her own life path through her own navigational system.  She will not allow society to navigate it, but only herself.  She is truly gifted in living life through the Law of Attraction.  With 31.4 million followers on instagram, millions of views on YouTube.com and a great future ahead of her, I say she’s doing a great job.

We should take her as an example as to live our own life.  Create it the way we would want it to be.  The majority may say “do this, do that”,”if you don’t do this you won’t be successful, if you do do this you will”. Screw them. Jot down your plan, visualize what you want and make it happen. People always want to be helpful and they have the best intentions (the ones that care about you) but they do not know what you want as much as you do.  Do what makes you happy and what is right for you.  If you want something, go for it and never let the mainstream voices control your destiny or your wardrobe choices.

“You know the message you’re sending out to the world with these sweatpants? You’re telling the world, ‘I give up. I can’t compete in normal society. I’m miserable, so I might as well be comfortable.’” – Jerry Seinfeld, Seinfeld

Being Thankful For Even The Smallest Things

So I began this blog in February with no views and no likes and no followers.  I knew going into this it was going to be slow and steady (I am a Capricorn for crying out loud), but It’s July now.  When I first checked on my blog posts, I still saw no views, no likes and certainly no followers still, lol. I wasn’t upset about it because I knew things take time and maybe my time wasn’t right now.

Last night (July 16, 2019) I wrote a blog and before I went to bed I checked on my activity level and lo and behold I had gained ONE follower. YES!  I was so excited. I know you’re thinking “oh it’s just one follower, I have 50K”, or “that’s no big deal”.  Trust me, it WAS/IS a big deal to me.  That one follower that I gained last night helped me feel that I could do anything. Thank you for giving me that sense of self that I needed to believe in myself.  You have no idea what impact you have given to me at the moment and will continue to give me throughout this journey and with that, I thank you.

I went to bed feeling elated and having my husband roll his eyes at me, lol.  When I woke up this morning I saw that I had two additional views.  Again, I was ecstatic! It inspired me to write this post about appreciating everything in life, even the things you may seem as not as important. I say, they are just as important or even more.

Be thankful for the things you do have and the experiences you go through.  I am incredibly thankful when a stranger smiles at me and helps lift up my spirits. I love seeing others give up their seat for someone else when they need it more. I enjoy the laughter that comes from my daughter.

When you are thankful, the universe opens up more possibilities for you.  It gives you exactly what you put out.  If you are a positive person and are focus on your goals, the universe will help deliver whatever it is that you want; you just need to be grateful.

so, I am grateful for my new (and first) followers. I thank you for coming on this journey with me. I thank you for allowing me to be myself and appreciating what I have to offer.  Thank you for your kindness.

“Do you ever get down on your knees and thank God you know me and have access to my dementia?” – George Costanza, Seinfeld

Kylie Jenner Living Her Best Life through the Law of Attraction

This morning I was scrolling through Instagram and Kylie Jenner’s post appeared on my feed.  The first emotion that I felt was a tad bit of jealousy but then I read what she had written under her photo with a beautiful sunset.  She posted about her ups and her downs through out her young adult life and how she has struggled and grown. She also encouraged her followers to be “gentle with yourself, move on and let go”, and that we are all capable of great things.  She asked her followers to be “unapologetic and do more of what makes you happy”.

While I have a love/hate relationship with this family, I realized after reading that post that I should not have a distorted view on someone I do not know and should, nevertheless, judge. Her post resonated with me so profoundly that it caused me to gain my respect for her.

It’s true, we should live our lives not caring about what other people think and we SHOULD do more things that make us happy, regardless of the naysayers. I think if we ALL did this we would never feel the urge to put others down, control them or feel jealousy towards anyone anymore.  Kylie may be less than half my age, but in that post she really showed that she was well beyond her years.

 “It all became very clear to me sitting out there today that every decision I’ve ever made in my entire life has been wrong. My life is the complete opposite of everything I want it to be. Every instinct I have, in every aspect of life, be it something to wear, something to eat – it’s all been wrong.” – George Costanza, Seinfeld

Teaching and the American Culture

“Why do I always have the feeling that everybody’s doing something better than me on Saturday afternoons?” – Jerry Seinfeld

Teaching is a thankless job they say.  I say the opposite is true, at times.  Teaching is one of the most rewarding jobs out there and if you ever get a chance to work with a great staff it makes coming to work so much easier.  It’s also nice when your students appreciate you and value you not only as a teacher but also as a person. There are many perks to teaching such as summer vacation, a week off here and there, and the many smiles you get every day when a student suddenly understands something.  The most rewarding thing for myself is when a student has personally written a letter to me thanking me for my guidance and commitment to their education.

At times, however, teaching can be a nightmare.  Those summers “off” can be spent lesson planning, attending professional development, or working a part-time job to make ends meet. At times, your principal can target you for minor infractions and micromanage you if they see you aren’t teaching to the standards that they see fit.  Your co-workers could also be in co-hoots with administration and when they “see something, they say something”; meaning anything that goes against the administration.  When you do report something or simply speak to a union rep your words could be twisted and you may be the target of a smear campaign against you.

The American culture and our views on teachers have created an atmosphere of hostility.  We are not valuing our teachers anymore and the sacrifices we make everyday.  There are times when I do not spend enough time with my child (pre-school age), where instead of playing together or taking her to the park, I am lesson planning.  Even worse, I end up snapping at her because of my lack of patience due to the stresses of the job.  My social life is non-existent and I have retreated to sitting at my desk on my days off catching up on grading or inputting a new protocol that is being thrust upon me.

I am not here to have you feel sorry for me, but I think it’s time to start respecting teachers again.  There are a lot of factors going on in these buildings and districts that no one tells you about.  The bureaucracy is overwhelming and the collusion is sickening.  It has created a smaller retention rate of effective teachers.  We need to take care of our teachers and realize that we need to be looked after also before teacher burnout reaches them.